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Blinded by the light: toxic positivity and how to ...

Blinded by the light: toxic positivity and how to bring balance to the world through integration.

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***I feel disclaimers are necessary as this will trigger someone I’m sure. These are my opinions and thoughts regarding the issue of toxic positivity. I accept all views and realties as truth so please keep an open mind when reading and know this is my life experience. it doesn’t have to be yours..***

There is almost a cult like energy from from the only love and light community..

We all know them. They are everywhere in the spiritual community. I was raised by one and was brought up on the tenants of fake positivity and blinding light. So I can spot them from a mile away. The love and light (also conflated at times with the New Age community) is strong and continues to expand. Despite its rocky origins back in the 1970s, the conglomeration of spirituality and pseudoscience has created what is now growing spiritual movement. Predominantly in the United States among upper and middle class individuals, the new Age movement has long had its supporters along with critics and naysayers. While some versions are loosely based within the strongholds of Christianity, MY experience with the Love and Light movement has always operated from a place of complete avoidance of the dark. Let me explain..

As a child I was raised in the Unity Church. It was an all inclusive safe space for people of all faiths. And anyone was welcomed within its doors. I remember learning of Buddhism and the afterlife. Karma and light-work. Maya Angelou in fact was one of its most prominent members! What could go wrong, right? On the Unity website, it states that its founders, Charles and Myrtle Fillmore interpreted the Bible as “a metaphysical representation of each souls evolutionary journey towards spiritual awakening” and while there was always emphasis on the metaphysical, God and Jesus were the central focus of each sermon every Sunday.

Now nothing is inherently wrong with this of course. In fact, I feel the integration of religion and spirituality is so critical as to not lose sight of the messages being taught. Strict religion teaches us the Bible in literal terms. Having us really out here not loving our neighbor due to their differences. When in reality we are supposed to be embracing the differences “God” has bestowed upon us and finding divinity in every individual. And that is what Unity helped me learn as I was growing up among many other amazing experiences. I am grateful for the lessons I was able to absorb from my exposure to such an open minded way of thought as it rooted me in both the material plane and the spiritual one from a very early age. But at the core, this is the depths and epitome of the New Age movement. What is wrong with anything I’ve said above? You’re probably asking. What is wrong with such a progressive version of Christianity that includes everyone and all ways of thought? Well, not once did I ever hear about the darkness.

 

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Now I know where a lot of minds go when one mentions the darkness. Evil. Depraved. The “Devil” himself. Many in the Occult community know better, but the fusion of New Age, Witchcraft and the metaphysical has made for murky waters when it comes to darkness. I define darkness as the unknown, the hidden and the subconscious. The places where we operate from unknowingly, and under the surface. It isn’t innately negative in nature. In fact, it is a lot of times void of moral labels. It just IS. And you cannot attach societal influences on something so personal to ones self. Here’s an example: Is it “bad” that my defenses to trauma include dissociating? NO! For one, I am protecting myself and I have learned that detachment is a healthy way to cope with something that may prove otherwise too heavy to bear. dissociating can be considered my “darkness” and I operate from it without conscious effort or energy. Is it “wrong” that I get angry and upset when another wrongs me? NO! I am allowed to feel natural, human emotions and express them in a healthy, productive way. My anger is my “darkness” and I am not wrong for feeling it in its intensity.

The New Age “Love and Light” Community as a whole teaches that only these two concepts are acceptable for humanity. I have literally seen memes, posts and whole ass books telling others to have “High Vibes Only.” To reject any semblance of negative energy and that through only love and blinding white light can we reach some sort of spiritual evolution. Back to my childhood, when I was bullied at school by others, my mother would tell me to envision a blinding white angelic beam of light surrounding me. Shielding at its finest. And yes it worked very well! The problem with this is, in addition to shielding myself, I should have been telling these kids to fuck all the way off with their judgements. I was not allowed a release of MY emotions regarding their persecutions, as the light only provided limited protection from their words.

Love and Light teaches you avoidance of darkness. It rejects any connection to self through the denial of human emotions. Sure, love heals many things and is a powerful tool for defense and protection. But so is rage. So is violence. Nature itself is not kind. So what makes us feel we are more evolved than Mother Earth herself to demand peace in every situation? Who do you think is better equip to defend themselves when given a worthy adversary? The one who wants to love or the one who chooses anger to fight? Both emotions exist on a spectrum, but one is connected to raw, carnal instincts, while the other is expanded through elevation of consciousness. BOTH are valuable and necessary. But to deny one is to deny the other.

The act of “Love and Light” can involve blinding the other person through what can be classified as a form of “Love Bombing’. This tactic, also used by narcissists, is effective in overshadowing ones defenses to render them unable to see the reality of the situation. The approaches used can be slightly different, but at the core, manipulation is the goal. A love and lighter can essentially blind you through denial of emotions to coerce you into a head space you might not otherwise be in. In other words, emitting ONLY sheer blind love is not only toxic as fuck, but dangerous as well. Emotions are a compass for our wellbeing. When we deny them, whether they are VALID or not, we are oppressing an opportunity for growth and healing. Maybe the emotions of anger you feel are valid as someone has wronged you. But the lesson isn’t in is right or wrong to feel it, but how you handle the emotion of anger. Will you use if for fuel and allow the energy of anger to transform you? Or poison, to eat away at your soul?

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Mental illness is something many people struggle with on this planet. We cannot pray it away or deny its existence. Depression, while sometimes situational, can also stem from actual chemical imbalances within the brain that affect every aspect of a person’s life. No amount of positive thinking and denial of darkness can touch a chemical disruption. It just is. And should be approached from not only an environmental standpoint but (IMO) a medical one as well when necessary. But I’ve literally seen suggestions from the L&L crew that “Our mental state is a reflection of ourselves. If we “VIBE HIGHER” we can eliminate depression. Do you know how toxic that message is? To basically tell someone to will themselves into a healthy mindset when it was never within their control in the first place is dangerous and creates an even bigger depressive void when the amount of energy put into “HIGH VIBES ONLY” yields absolutely no return.

I have and continue to be shamed with my comfort in the darkness. I am subconsciously deemed dangerous by association and therefore must have some deficit or sadistic need to wallow in the dark. It’s often viewed better to be a light-worker, emitting high frequency vibes like a dog whistle than a torchbearer who finds comfort in the liminal in between. And that I think is the misconception many have about people who find comfort in both the light and dark. We can hold a flame and be light bringers, illuminating darkness around us through reflection, psychoanalysis and integration. We can also sit in the darkness, knowing the air reeks of uncertainty and void, but find stillness within us to move past the fear. Going into it blindly not knowing what the other side will look like. the house of twigs spirituality love and light thot michelle root

I think some of the most snake-like people you meet can operate under the guise of being compassionate, caring individuals. Most people are wounded and seek a soothing balm of sorts to ease the pain of life. In the form of a friend, spiritual advisor, guru, pastor or the like. It can feel insanely warm and fuzzy at first. A deep soul connection or a sisterly/brotherly bond. But when something doesn’t jive right, and you see true colors, it can expose you to a side they never showed you before. They pull you in only to regurgitate you back up, all with a smile on their face. And you’re left wondering what the fuck just happened or where you’re now supposed to land in life because your gauges of a person we clouded with fake positive energy and support. It can honestly leave you feeling targeted once the shine washes away from a person’s soul.

I really don’t want this to be misconstrued with a twist or misunderstanding of words. No one here is saying being on the side of positivity more than negativity is a bad thing. In fact, trying to remain costive in this toxic and destructive world seems more important than ever for survival and sanity. No one truly wants to wake up angry or depressed with life. But maintaining a healthy balance of positive energy and REALITY is something more would benefit from. You can only smile for so long through pain before you’re pushed into the oblivion of the truths at hand. It’s up to each one of us to address internally what light and dark integration looks like. Personal truths don’t look the same to everyone. And my version of darkness may be terrifying to you. And vice versa. These paths of personal evolvement do tend to be fine tailored to the individual which can make comparisons of growth hard to monitor. But if I don’t say anything else on the topic I will leave you with this:

To deny your darkness and only bask in the light only proves how much you need to sit with it. You must be hiding something pretty deep to only want others to see the light all the time. Transmute the dark and light. Use both for your mental and spiritual growth. And don’t reject the darkness, as you are erasing your true self in the process. The path is meant to be uncertain, full of ebbs and flows. Once you learn healthy ways to display your emotions whether they are positive or negative, you give yourself the opportunity to be whole.

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